Archive | November, -0001
Yes breathing. We can’t say it is over-rated as it is actually life. We do take it for granted though. We are busy breathing morning, noon and night and we don’t take any notice of it. However did you know if we do remember to be aware of our breathing it can make a big difference in how we perceive and react to situations?
Particularly when people are stressed as in starting a business or because they are learning something new, this the very time when they go to pieces. They don’t see what is in front of them but start to flounder around and make mistakes. Obviously if they can read the directions or follow the instructions they would be better off.
Sometimes in order to be able to function properly we need to calm down. There is too much noise and chaos when we are stressed and it is no wonder that we only see or hear half of what is there when our minds and bodies are so busy trying to navigate through all the emotions. We can only do so many things at once!
However, if we could remember to just focus on our breathing for a second, it has so much power. Do you hear it? Feel it? Good you are still alive. Now if we can take at least one deep breath we would calm down one octave. Better still if we could take the time to calmly take 3 deep breaths and let it out slowly, we could be on a whole different plain.
Of course according to the degree of stress, the more time you can spend being conscious of and controlling your breathing, the better off you will be. It is really sometimes difficult to remember to ‘carve out’ a special time to do exercises – even what amounts to a few minutes for breathing.
Once we are able to see the value when we do breathing exercises on the fly (and just a couple as described), then maybe we will like it so much that we will make time to start and/or end our day with a few minutes to focus on our breathing.
For now though, let’s not worry about getting into a sticky commitment and just remember that when you feel stress, focus on your breathing. Try to take at least one deep breath before you speak or act. You will begin to see a big difference. It may even protect you from serious health problems brought on by stress.
“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” is actually a direct quote from a cartoon bunny, the very infamous Thumper (‘Bambi’). He was so right really because saying something nasty doesn’t do anything at all except maybe hurt feelings and dirty up the vibrations with negativity.
We must make a conscious effort sometimes to avoid making negative statements. If we are constantly making a comments to point out negatives it gets to be a real habit. Some may seem perfectly harmless like ‘what lousy weather’. Isn’t it bad enough that the weather IS lousy? Can’t everybody see that? Then why do we need to magnify it by pronouncing the fact?
If you begin to watch yourself on this you will see how many things you say just to make conversation, once it becomes a bad habit. You would be very surprised how people, whether consciously or subconsciously begin to see you as a negative person when you make negative statements.
We can’t avoid a certain amount of negativity in this life if for no other reason than polarity but there is no reason to glorify it. So when you start to say something that could be construed in any way to be negative either don’t say anything or turn your statement in such a way that it is not negative. For the weather for example, ‘They say it is going to heat up tomorrow’.
This all may seem irrelevant to you but it is highly relevant not only to business relationships but also to marketing. Listen and watch a real marketing expert sometime. It makes you feel downright guilty when you hear them turn everything negative into something positive.
For instance you say ‘man, business is really slow this week’ – He will not say ‘woe is me’. He will say ‘business will pick up’. Or you complain about a customer’s behavior – ‘he really doesn’t get it’ – and your marketer will say ‘he will do just fine once he learns’.
This all also relates to the art of forgiveness which is much more difficult than you would imagine. You must not feel offended. Even if somebody has done something to you that really hurts – you just turn it into something positive like ‘he knows not what he does’. Let him off the hook. This is not to say enable him or that he is entitled to hurt you. This is about freeing you up from the negative thoughts and feelings that poison you and sometimes cause you to project them, making yourself appear negative to others who usually don’t understand.
The possibilities are endless. Of course with that said some of the ideas we have may not be possible at least at this time, due to many different reasons. However if we stick to realistic, reasonable goals and within those parameters do some brainstorming, we might come up with ideas we didn’t even know we had!
One way to get started is to make a few lists. Start with your skills. What have you done at each job you have had? First use – broad categories but then outline the details so that you know what it involved. What training and/or education have you had?
On the next list, detail your interests. What do you enjoy doing? What do you consider your hobbies? What would you like to do if you had the time or money? What have you always wanted to learn more about or to experience such as travel to a specific place or taking a Thai cooking class.
Now we want to go back to each list and think of ways we could use our skills and/or interests to create a business at home. For example you see you have experience with customer service, bookkeeping, word processing, or other office skills. These would make a perfect service business. Many people that have small businesses do not have these skills and need them so they will pay to have them done.
For example most Internet home businesses need writing – for blogs, advertisements, marketing (emails) etc. If you have a flair for writing and you have good grammar and can type decently you could earn money writing for people. There are just a few facts you need to gather in order to know how and what to write for them.
You are not confined to only office services. You can almost instantly become an affiliate marketer and earn commissions if you like sales and marketing. If you find in your skills and/or interest lists that you love arts and crafts, then you can create a gift business using those skills. You can create gift baskets to sell on the holidays or year round that include things you have made from food to ceramics to soap and candles.
Any business including Internet businesses will at some point involve marketing and advertising to get customers or sales. This can be from any perspective – it could be what you do as your service business for others. However what I am referring to here is the fact that you will need to promote your own business and so the first thing you should write are your own advertisements.
If you don’t have a website and do not know how to create one, you are like the vast majority of people including home business owners. It is a very simple matter to set up a blog account and use the pre-formatted themes that they give you free, to create a different ad space. Add some pages with your services and your costs, a free Paypal button and you have a good start.
However no one will see your website unless you promote it and this is where you will need to learn some basic skills with regard to Internet marketing. There are a number of inexpensive services that others can provide for you to get you started. Once you see what is going on you may be able to do everything yourself for free!