Archive | November, -0001
It is very surprising when someone who has been given everything absolutely free and without obligation for years, has no concept of appreciation or reciprocation. It is beyond their level of awareness that after giving everything away for so long that maybe there is now a need for the giver to try to generate some income to keep the business going or he has some other need he doesn’t mention. It’s because they are only about me-me-me.
There are many good people that would express their appreciation by sticking with their benefactor and kicking in a few dollars just out of fairness. However it is quite shocking how many people will turn around and run away and then on top of it act spiteful about it. Oh it’s not free anymore? Bye now. Trying to learn forgiveness, an important factor is not to feel offended. Just let it slide. Think ‘what goes around comes around’. It is very difficult to do but probably the most important thing in the conversation so far for our own mental and spiritual health.
However then there is something called ‘righteous indignation’ – this is where you don’t need to forgive someone because they have not done anything to you directly. But you see what low characters they really have and it is ok to be angry with them for hurting someone who is good and doesn’t deserve it. Hopefully you will never have to stoop so low and you can just pity them.
There is also an issue as with an affiliate program which is set up to benefit both the program owner and the affiliate. Each one contributes to the success of the program. Actually don’t ever kid yourself martyrs and victims, it is the program that spent the most money developing their product and their program, and has the most expense in maintaining it for affiliates; so just pay your little fee and be glad you can get in on it. The problem is you may be the type of character to blame them if you fail even if you know darn well it is because you are actually lazy and expected something for nothing. You didn’t even really try.
There is a saying ‘the more people I meet the better I like dogs’ and that is one thing that is truly believed here on a day where it is apparent how really cheap people can be. Everybody’s poor so that is no excuse for your greed and selfishness. Some of us do something about it and we are poor no more. Some even go on to share with others whatever extra time or resources that they may have.
Then again there are gazillionaires that have no soul and are very, very poor. Feel very sorry for them. People who always have their hand out for anything free, and never give back either tangibly or intangibly, directly or indirectly, you suck so bad you shouldn’t show your face in public as you may scare babies.
If you never have any money to give back there are other things (intangibles) you can give starting with your sincere appreciation, all the way to helping someone out if you can show them something they need to know. Just try to give back however you can.
It’s not eyelashes, bone structure or hair although those things may be a part of the picture of what people think is attractive. Would you believe #1 is self-confidence? Hands down, it dictates how you carry yourself and what you project to others. What you project is success whether it’s already manifested or not; confidence projects potential success and just that you are a ‘winner’.
What do you think it is that determines whether you believe some Internet Marketer telling you to follow him into a business opportunity? Yes it is of course about the program or product and the potential to earn money, but the main thing that makes you listen, believe and take action is the speaker’s confidence!
Visualize if some guy in a tattered shirt, long in the mouth (frowning, eyes down) tells you about a program he thinks is really going to be the balm. Would you be likely to believe him? Very few would; but if he had a big smile, tattered shirt or not, if he appeared happy and to believe what he is saying you may really give it a chance based on his personality and delivery.
Seriously people are attracted to other people who might be able to help them find their way. We are all looking for that person. Of course we have to realize that happiness comes from within. We have to be happy to attract another happy person (rather than to be miserable and expect somebody to make us happy) It is the same with confidence.
If you want to learn how to have self-confidence, learn to emulate those people you admire and who seem to have personalities that just shine. Of course don’t ever do anything like imitate or copy somebody, but just note how they attract other people in a positive way. It is likely something small like someone who is interested. So for example, when you say ‘hi, how are you today?’ – they don’t just say ‘fine’ or ‘fine thanks’ – they ask ‘and how are you doing?’ The major point actually listen to the answer.
There has always been sarcasm about the remark, ‘let’s do lunch’ – as if it is a huge joke that is meaningless and if you showed up for lunch people would think you are needy and naive. So the point is to really be interested in people’s replies. Don’t look away as if you are pre-occupied or couldn’t care less how they are. This will not only make the other person feel good and to realize you are a self-confident, kindly person, but may lead into a business discussion. How can I help you? What do you need? You know I have this new opportunity you might be interested in.
… and for God’s sake – really show up for lunch if you mention it!
You may think you are young and you may be – you may have plenty of time before you even think you need to be concerned about awful words like retirement or pension. However you would be very surprised because many things can happen in your life that may derail your perfect plans. You should start as early as possible to be concerned about these issues due to that fact. Never have a cavalier attitude about anything as you may regret it.
For a sickening example, let’s consider the last recession. We are talking about people who started working in their 20’s and started accruing pension and various retirement investments. They may have also acquired real estate as part of this portfolio. They had a good plan and they were faithful to themselves in contributing to a good result. Set for life, right?
It doesn’t hurt to note here that these people are in the minority. Most people are not nearly as prepared for one reason or another so it may be even worse for them. It just may add a little drama to the already very sad tale. So by the 2008 recession these folks are getting to be around their 60s or close to it and nearing what would have been projected as ‘retirement’ age in a less cruel world.
We won’t accuse anyone or delve into the various causes of the recession – let it just suffice to say it wasn’t caused by the people in our story. They are the victims. Somehow suddenly about half their retirement savings are gone,if not entirely. So now rather than planning on their retirement and looking forward to some sort of ‘reward’ for working all their lives, they are looking for part-time work for seniors.
At this point in their lives it is rather late to start over and/or to ever dream of any sort of meaningful recovery. It’s criminal and it is just so very tragic. The worst part is there is no retribution except in the most extreme cases of outright fraud. The point here is that you should start young to save money. Don’t put it all in your employment benefits accounts, although it would be good to also contribute to those since they usually match by double. Keep an account separate from everything else.
If you have any spare time try to earn extra money; (and you know all that web surfing and social networking is fun and all but really does nothing for our bottom line) – unless we can somehow work it into helping us to promote an online business. Since it is spare time and spare change at this point we should just forget about any income from it. Just let it accrue and keep generating by being engaged as much as possible to make it work on the side. You will be surprised ‘at the end of the day’ where you have this nice little chunk of money to help you get by.